Hello Annken,

Oh gosh that doesn't sound nice at all.. Being lonely and isolated is a terrible way to live.. The thing to decide is if you move from your lovely home which is not the problem.. Are the people.. family, friends etc still residing in the home town? Can you find a way for friends, and family to come to you?

Are there ways you can find people to connect with where you live as well?Depending on how long you have been where you are.. It's often difficult to feel at home in the way you did where you grew up, but before you decide to move one aspect of comfort.. make sure you cannot find what you need where you are, or be sure things will be as they were when you left.. : ))

i never really connected terribly well with people, but i had a connection with people if you see what i mean. more so i have a profound love of my home town and the environs, i was always solitary but i knew many in my home town, but its the sense i feel of self in my own hometown, i miss every view, harbour, blade of grass and rock formation, i am a person of nature rather than of people. i miss what i adored. i just miss it too much and feel as if i am 'doing time' for a sin, as yet i do not know!

Hello Annken,

Well we're all different but you can be connected as you say without having to be always around others.. So it really seems like the place is more a pull than perhaps the people in it.. The natural environment is absolutely important and can have a profound effect on our wellbeing as well as social interactions or possibly even more so.. but having read what you have said just now... I think you have answered your own quandary.. ..

: ))

hi everyone, dropping by to say us twins are off to the 'self build' at city west this weekend, decided on sunday so i can rest tomorrow. twin very undecided about all of this, she needs some reassurance, hard to find that in todays pace. not entirely sure who i could ask! anyway we are off to a top specialist hospital soon, very soon so we are getting our medical files all sorted right now. we have an extremely rare disease so we have to go out to get the help we need nada in ireland, i know i have a test lined up for the very first day on arrival, if they take any more lumps out of my muscle without anasthesia i will go nuts, yes my friends not for the faint hearted and i mean it, they cannot deaden the muscle, guess they have to see it wriggle!!!!

Hello Annken,

Gosh that's really hard for you both.. but hope all goes well and not too painful.. Glad to hear you have a twin... that's really great! You can be there for each other at least which should help with things.. Have a good trip and sure they'll look after you both.. : ))

they will, we cannot wait to get over. xx

xx : ))

update here now. tomorrow i see a guy from a housing agency. hope that at this juncture i can get a third party involved, to cut back some money and also get us help. both of us have gone down in the past year, i am shattered. i wish wink wishes existed!!!!