What You Do When There’s No One Around: Houzzers Reveal Their Secrets
Ice cream binges, air guitar concerts, napping in the closet… Houzzers worldwide disclose their quirky secret indulgences
‘What if someone could see me now?’ I often wonder this when I’m home alone, shuffling around the house in my shabbiest sweats, hoping I won’t have to answer the door for that delivery I’m expecting – or, worse still, when I’ve just devoured a whole bag of crisps in five minutes flat. We tend to keep quiet about our secret little indulgences, thinking we’re the only ones who let ourselves go occasionally when no one’s looking (everyone else, of course, does their taxes, learns Mandarin or meditates). ‘I’m the only one who has these quirky habits, right?’
Well, no actually. If we could be a fly on the wall in the homes of Houzzers across the globe, we’d be able to witness marvellous things. Odd things, too, but marvellous nonetheless. Fortunately, many of our community members have shared their quirks, so now I don’t feel so different anymore – and, I hope, neither will you.
Well, no actually. If we could be a fly on the wall in the homes of Houzzers across the globe, we’d be able to witness marvellous things. Odd things, too, but marvellous nonetheless. Fortunately, many of our community members have shared their quirks, so now I don’t feel so different anymore – and, I hope, neither will you.
2 Forgetting our manners
‘I drink milk from the carton and eat cheese from the big block instead of slicing it,’ says Arkady Yaparov from Russia. The Houzz community assures us he’s not the only one. Lucie42 from France eats Nutella from the jar and ice cream right out of the tub – all while staying in her PJs all weekend.
US Houzzer Cocoanlace also has an unusual dress code, and is similarly unapologetic about her snacking choice. ‘I am usually naked. Also, I have tortilla chips and salsa for dinner sometimes.’
Finally, fair play to Barbara from Australia, who’s finally letting herself do all the things she wasn’t allowed to do as a kid. ‘I don’t have to wait till hubby turns his back to lick my plate, ’cause we both do it! I think it’s an insult to the cook not to lick your plate clean. Well, that’s what I say to justify it.’
‘I drink milk from the carton and eat cheese from the big block instead of slicing it,’ says Arkady Yaparov from Russia. The Houzz community assures us he’s not the only one. Lucie42 from France eats Nutella from the jar and ice cream right out of the tub – all while staying in her PJs all weekend.
US Houzzer Cocoanlace also has an unusual dress code, and is similarly unapologetic about her snacking choice. ‘I am usually naked. Also, I have tortilla chips and salsa for dinner sometimes.’
Finally, fair play to Barbara from Australia, who’s finally letting herself do all the things she wasn’t allowed to do as a kid. ‘I don’t have to wait till hubby turns his back to lick my plate, ’cause we both do it! I think it’s an insult to the cook not to lick your plate clean. Well, that’s what I say to justify it.’
The question is, why, when so much of our world is built on appearances, which we keep up when out in public, do we let it all go as soon as we’re alone? ‘It makes total sense that we wear comfy clothes after a taxing day and eat however we want to,’ Schmidt says. ‘We need those moments when we can simply be ourselves, especially when, all day long, we’ve acted the way that was expected of us.’
She adds that often we put that pressure on ourselves: in a sort of pre-emptive obedience, we submit to what we think others expect of us. Being able to escape those expectations feels very sweet.
It’s good to know that even the most diligent among us are afflicted. ‘I hardly ever turn my brain off… When I’m at home, I read, study, take notes, do research…,’ says Erica Bagnasco from Italy. ‘Of course, I do it all in my pyjamas!’
She adds that often we put that pressure on ourselves: in a sort of pre-emptive obedience, we submit to what we think others expect of us. Being able to escape those expectations feels very sweet.
It’s good to know that even the most diligent among us are afflicted. ‘I hardly ever turn my brain off… When I’m at home, I read, study, take notes, do research…,’ says Erica Bagnasco from Italy. ‘Of course, I do it all in my pyjamas!’
3 Indulging our culinary cravings
Eating a whole litre of ice cream right out of the tub, inhaling a bag of crisps, licking the plate – isn’t it interesting that many of our secret habits centre on food? And not much was said about luxury, five-course meals, either. Instead, it’s the simple things we crave, the spontaneous gratification. ‘I bake pie crust,’ says nikavt from the US. ‘I don’t do filling, just the crust. I’ll bake some plain, some with grated Pecorino Romano on top, and some with raspberry jam.’
We all have such cravings, no matter how healthy our diet may be otherwise. Eating is closely associated with wellbeing. It can trigger a childhood memory, or it can bring pure and simple delight, sort of like raiding the cookie jar. And sometimes we even do it out of consideration. Junko Kawakami from Japan secretly eats a Japanese speciality that might not look very appetising to everyone. ‘I like natto [fermented soya beans], but my husband doesn’t, so I eat them when I’m home alone,’ she says.
Eating a whole litre of ice cream right out of the tub, inhaling a bag of crisps, licking the plate – isn’t it interesting that many of our secret habits centre on food? And not much was said about luxury, five-course meals, either. Instead, it’s the simple things we crave, the spontaneous gratification. ‘I bake pie crust,’ says nikavt from the US. ‘I don’t do filling, just the crust. I’ll bake some plain, some with grated Pecorino Romano on top, and some with raspberry jam.’
We all have such cravings, no matter how healthy our diet may be otherwise. Eating is closely associated with wellbeing. It can trigger a childhood memory, or it can bring pure and simple delight, sort of like raiding the cookie jar. And sometimes we even do it out of consideration. Junko Kawakami from Japan secretly eats a Japanese speciality that might not look very appetising to everyone. ‘I like natto [fermented soya beans], but my husband doesn’t, so I eat them when I’m home alone,’ she says.
4 Singing, dancing, playing air guitar
‘When I want to relax after a tough day, I listen to Vivaldi in the kitchen and pretend I’m playing the first violin. I find it incredibly grounding,’ says Penelope Schles from Germany. She might be onto something. There have been several studies across the world that have linked music, health and wellbeing. Listening to music has been said to lower stress hormone levels (Bach had a better effect on this than ABBA in a study by HJ Trappe of Ruhr University Bochum) and some studies have even shown that by doing the singing yourself, you can give your immune system a boost.
We seem to understand this on a subconscious level – that’s why we set our voices free and sing when we are home alone. ‘I feel sorry for my neighbours, ’cause when I’m home by myself, I imagine being Beyoncé,’ says Natalia Shashkova from Russia.
Singing, dancing and making music are all expressions of pure joie de vivre. Without music, mankind would be nothing. And yet, many of us prefer to do it on the sly. For one thing, most of us believe we can’t sing; for another, we think we shouldn’t do it in public. But don’t we find it charming when someone is doing it anyway, quite unselfconsciously? There it is again: pre-emptive obedience.
‘When I want to relax after a tough day, I listen to Vivaldi in the kitchen and pretend I’m playing the first violin. I find it incredibly grounding,’ says Penelope Schles from Germany. She might be onto something. There have been several studies across the world that have linked music, health and wellbeing. Listening to music has been said to lower stress hormone levels (Bach had a better effect on this than ABBA in a study by HJ Trappe of Ruhr University Bochum) and some studies have even shown that by doing the singing yourself, you can give your immune system a boost.
We seem to understand this on a subconscious level – that’s why we set our voices free and sing when we are home alone. ‘I feel sorry for my neighbours, ’cause when I’m home by myself, I imagine being Beyoncé,’ says Natalia Shashkova from Russia.
Singing, dancing and making music are all expressions of pure joie de vivre. Without music, mankind would be nothing. And yet, many of us prefer to do it on the sly. For one thing, most of us believe we can’t sing; for another, we think we shouldn’t do it in public. But don’t we find it charming when someone is doing it anyway, quite unselfconsciously? There it is again: pre-emptive obedience.
5 Sorting stuff
Although a lot of us have a hard time keeping our homes neat and uncluttered, others tend to spend their spare time… well, sorting things. Some Houzzers find pleasure in sorting their socks, or arranging their silverware at right angles. Not everyone admitted to doing it secretly, but some seem to be embarrassed by their habit. It’s curious we feel ashamed when it’s actually beneficial.
Sorting stuff seems to be satisfying and calming – rather like meditation. Australian Houzzer janetneve3009 relishes the opportunity to put things in their place, even if that means making an initial mess in order to sort things out. ‘When I have a (rare) Saturday morning free, I love nothing better than to throw the contents of my craft box onto the coffee table and then put everything back in ever so neatly! Incredibly “uncool”, but I love it.’ German Houzzer Amelia Sommer also admits to taking everyday sorting to a new level. ‘When I hang up the laundry and a piece of clothing requires two clothes pegs … they have to be the same colour.’
Schmidt says of our organising idiosyncrasies, ‘With all the stress and chaos many of us experience every day, we enjoy being able to actually finish a job and check it off. Done! It gives us the feeling that at least in this one area of our lives we’ve created a little bit of order.’
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Although a lot of us have a hard time keeping our homes neat and uncluttered, others tend to spend their spare time… well, sorting things. Some Houzzers find pleasure in sorting their socks, or arranging their silverware at right angles. Not everyone admitted to doing it secretly, but some seem to be embarrassed by their habit. It’s curious we feel ashamed when it’s actually beneficial.
Sorting stuff seems to be satisfying and calming – rather like meditation. Australian Houzzer janetneve3009 relishes the opportunity to put things in their place, even if that means making an initial mess in order to sort things out. ‘When I have a (rare) Saturday morning free, I love nothing better than to throw the contents of my craft box onto the coffee table and then put everything back in ever so neatly! Incredibly “uncool”, but I love it.’ German Houzzer Amelia Sommer also admits to taking everyday sorting to a new level. ‘When I hang up the laundry and a piece of clothing requires two clothes pegs … they have to be the same colour.’
Schmidt says of our organising idiosyncrasies, ‘With all the stress and chaos many of us experience every day, we enjoy being able to actually finish a job and check it off. Done! It gives us the feeling that at least in this one area of our lives we’ve created a little bit of order.’
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Delighting in the unconventional
Finally, let’s round off the wonderful secret home alone practices revealed by our Houzzers with some quirky habits of an entirely different sort. Where they come from and what they mean is a mystery. Meleshko Vasily from Russia rubs his ear with his socks before putting them on each morning. Others like to do a dive roll onto their bed on the way to their balcony, or believe they have to close every door in the house to feel safe, or even sleep in an armoire every now and then, because they like the smell.
The question of why we do these things is not really all that important as long as our quirks don’t interfere with our everyday lives. At home, we can be who we want to be – and that’s the only thing that counts.
TELL US…
What secret quirks or habits do you indulge in when you’re home alone? Let us know in the Comments below.
Finally, let’s round off the wonderful secret home alone practices revealed by our Houzzers with some quirky habits of an entirely different sort. Where they come from and what they mean is a mystery. Meleshko Vasily from Russia rubs his ear with his socks before putting them on each morning. Others like to do a dive roll onto their bed on the way to their balcony, or believe they have to close every door in the house to feel safe, or even sleep in an armoire every now and then, because they like the smell.
The question of why we do these things is not really all that important as long as our quirks don’t interfere with our everyday lives. At home, we can be who we want to be – and that’s the only thing that counts.
TELL US…
What secret quirks or habits do you indulge in when you’re home alone? Let us know in the Comments below.
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1 Talking to animals and plants
Time and time again, Houzzers owned up to calling on their furry friends for a chat. ‘I talk to my dogs all day long when I’m alone. They don’t respond, but they’re really great listeners,’ says jwbarone from the US. And she’s not the only one who seeks out unusual partners for conversation. Many Houzzers, such as Laura Beaupeurt from Australia, admit to talking to themselves when not talking to their pet, and some people even owned up to seeking advice from their plants.
Why do we talk to pets when we know they won’t respond? ‘Many animals are social beings, just like us humans,’ says Sandra Schmidt, a psychologist from Berlin. ‘When we tell our beloved four-legged friends about our problems and they cuddle up close to us, we feel understood and accepted.’
But there’s another reason, too – the fact that it feels good. Schmidt says it encourages us to think out loud. ‘We can process our thoughts more easily in this way – as if they were somebody else’s thoughts,’ she says. So talking to ourselves, pets and plants is a way to gain new insights. Well, there’s our answer – and permission to continue that chat with the goldfish.
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