Oh cripe I had a whole response written out and it went poof. Argh.
I lost confidence in my floor guy - I think he wasn't wiping the stain off but letting it dry on resulting in washed paint look. If that's OK to do (ie I remember hearing it's a problem when you apply more layers like poly but I'm not sure) it might work for you.
So I went natural ... Bona sealer to avoid uneven tannin pull due to using a water based poly, (especially on white oak), no stain, then Bona Traffic HD. I have some anxiety he didn't apply the poly in the correct thickness. Sigh.
Here are some of my samples. I asked for, but he never did, an all country white one.
I originally wanted a chocolate color but realized I like more contrast between floor and furnishings than a mid tone would give me.
However, I failed to visualize the tan natural against the grey bathroom tile. (The chocolate would have been fabulous next to it.) I have a small house and should have maximized flow but didn't realize just how much planning that would take at once.
I also read on a hard wood flooring contractor's forum about how in the 1980s everyone's white floors eventually looked terrible because the inevitable scratches turn dark from dirt and look awful against the white. Which is why I posted asking for people's experiences today, but I never received any replies.
Post back here with a link if you get more answers than I did or if you go with white!
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